Money is commonly listed as one of the top reasons for divorce. It can also be the source of many arguments and stress in a relationship, especially if you and your partner have different spending habits. Most couples have difficulty discussing money because they may be ashamed of their debt, afraid of being judged by their partner, or don’t understand why their partner spends money the way they do. This results in many couples avoiding the subject all together which only makes the situation worse. So, how can you discuss finances with your spouse without it becoming an argument? Below are a few tips to approaching the topic:
- Be purposeful. Set aside a time specifically to discuss finances in a casual setting (i.e., over dinner, drinks, coffee, etc.). Don’t dwell on past mistakes but talk about what your personal goals are and what goals you have for the family.
- Make it a routine. It is important to talk about money frequently to make sure you both are on track to achieve your goals. Additionally, if you both know that on the 5th of each month, you will discuss finances, then both parties know to expect the conversation and won’t feel ambushed by the other.
- Listen to your partner. Most times arguments about finances come about because of a difference in values and the way we were raised. For example, one partner may value convenience (i.e., paying for delivery) over having a little more money in the bank. In order to understand why your partner spends money or doesn’t spend money a certain way, you must be willing to listen to them without judging.
- Be self-aware. If you feel yourself getting angry or frustrated during the talk, take a break and resume the conversation after both parties have had a chance to calm down. Also, be open about your spending habits and mistakes.
- Seek help. If you and your partner are not able to discuss your finances calmly or agree on how to reach your financial goals, get help from a counselor or financial adviser. Sometimes having a third party to listen and mediate the conversation can help you communicate more clearly with your spouse.
- Finally, don’t put off talking with your spouse. Financial problems, like all problems, only get worse if ignored.
Everyone defines “spending wisely” differently depending on personal beliefs, likes and dislikes, and lifestyles. There are, of course, a few universal principles such as: not living beyond your means and saving money for unexpected emergencies. The differences arise in what people consider worthwhile purchases. For example, someone who hates cooking may not think of eating out as a poor decision, but a passionate cook sees it as a waste of money. The differences of opinions are fine as long as each person is able to live within their means. If you find yourself having a hard time spending less than you earn, however, you may need to reevaluate your spending habits. Sometimes the best way to take control of your spending is to change your mindset.
Managing your finances can be difficult and requires self-control just like maintaining a diet. One way that helps people maintain their diet and not eat that all-too-tempting-donut in the break room is to think about how much exercise it would take to burn off the extra calories if they did indulge in the donut. The same thought process can be applied to impulse purchases. Instead of thinking of the cup of coffee as only costing $5, think of how much time you would need to work in order to have the money to pay for the coffee. For example, if you make $20/hour, you would have to work for 15 minutes to pay for the $5 coffee. If you are buying coffee five times a week, then you are spending $25/week or one hour and fifteen minutes of work. Is that coffee worth the hour and fifteen minutes of work? Or, is it more worth your time to make coffee at home for significantly less money? If you apply this thought process to all your purchases, it may be easier to identify which ones should be eliminated and help you stick to your budget.
Getting a degree or certificate can open a world of possibilities for you. With more education, you could potentially earn more at your current job, qualify for a promotion, or find a new job that pays more and is more suited to your interests. Going to a traditional college or university is time consuming and expensive, however. Most people who are working full-time are overwhelmed at the thought of trying to figure out how to pay for higher education and attend on-campus courses. Luckily, there are lots of less traditional opportunities available for professional development and acquiring new skills..
If you want to get a degree from a college or university, you should check with your employer to see if they offer educational assistance. Some employers will pay at least part of your tuition if the class you are taking will help you in your current job. Many universities, including Harvard, also offer open learning courses that are open to anyone. You can pay a fee if you want to receive a certificate.
If you are just looking to acquire new skills or simply don’t have the funds to pay for college, there are lots of companies such as Coursera, Udemy, or LinkedIn that offer courses online for free or at a very low-cost. Some of these companies even offer certificates that are recognized by employers. Public libraries also offer courses online and in person on a variety of subjects.
With so many low-cost learning opportunities available, everyone has the chance to acquire new skills and further their career without having to go into debt.
Owning a vehicle is expensive. Depending on the type of car, you can easily spend hundreds if not a thousand dollars a month on car payments, paying for gasoline, maintenance, registration, and insurance. Some people decide that owning their own car isn’t worth the expense and opt for public transportation. If you are not able to do that, there are some ways that you can save money on your vehicle expenses.
First, keep your car up to date on maintenance and do as much of the maintenance as you can yourself. Choosing not to do routine maintenance to save some money in the moment can end up costing hundreds of dollars more in the long run if a major mechanical issue arises due to poor maintenance. If you are able, do the basic maintenance (such as changing the oil) yourself. If you do not know how to do it, ask a friend or search for instructional videos on YouTube. If you do not have a space to do it, there may be a “rent a garage” in your area. These are garages that allow people to rent space by the hour to do their own maintenance. Generally, the hourly rates are much less than what you would pay to have a mechanic at a professional shop do the work.
Second, conserve gasoline whenever possible. Plan your errands so that you aren’t driving back and forth. Don’t leave your car idling. Make sure you don’t have extra unnecessary weight in your car. And, use an app like Gas Buddy to find the least expensive gasoline in your area.
Third, make sure you aren’t overpaying for insurance. Get quotes from multiple companies and research to see which is best for you. Call your insurance company and ask if you are eligible for any discounts. Review your insurance at least once a year to make sure you have adequate coverage and are still getting the best rate.
Fourth, consider using your car to earn extra income. If you are considering getting a part-time job, you may want to consider being a Uber or Lyft driver or delivering food for a restaurant or a company like door dash.
We have discussed how payday loans hurt your financial situation more than help in the past in this blog. And during President Obama’s last term, a bill was passed that would regulate the predatory aspects of payday loan companies. However, the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau (CFPB) has announced that they plan to rollback these regulations. The regulations were supposed to be in place in January 2018 but have been delayed. It is now even more important for consumers to understand the risks associated with payday loans.
One major aspect that the CFPB intends to rollback is the requirement for payday loan companies to verify that a consumer can pay back the loan. According to CNBC, payday loan companies charge an average annual percentage rate of 400 percent. (A credit card company generally charges 11%-23%). CNBC also states that borrowers end up taking out multiple payday loans in order to repay their original loan and end up paying an average of $520 in finance charges. Therefore, even if you are able to get out of the cycle of continually taking out payday loans to pay off previous loans, you still end up paying exorbitant fees which may total more than your original loan.
So, how do you avoid needing to take out a payday loan? The best plan is to save each month to prepare for unexpected emergencies. Even if you are only able to invest $20 into a savings account each payday, that money will gain interest and can help you make ends meet when money gets tight. If you haven’t saved money and find yourself considering a payday loan, be sure to explore all your other options first (a personal loan from a bank or family or friend, lines of credit, credit cards, etc.). And, most importantly, before borrowing money from any source, make a plan of how to repay the money borrowed and stick to it to avoid paying even more fees and getting buried in a vicious cycle of debt!
One of the most common reasons that someone declares bankruptcy is due to overwhelming medical bills. Even just one accident or unexpected illness can create thousands of dollars of medical bills. Unless you are prepared for such a situation, you can easily find yourself drowning in debt. So how do you prepare for the unexpected? First, get insurance. Medical insurance can be expensive and seem unnecessary especially if you are healthy, but it will save you hundreds of dollars (maybe even thousands) if you need to have any major medical procedure or even just have a trip to the emergency room. If you are generally healthy, you can consider purchasing a high deductible plan which has lower monthly premiums. With a high deductible plan, you may also be able to set up a FSA or HSA account in which you can save money for medical expenses tax-free. Just be sure to read all the terms and conditions of these accounts (funds in FSA accounts generally must be spent within the year or you lose them, but HSA accounts typically can accumulate funds year to year).
Second, start saving now. Even if you are only able to save $20 a month, start saving immediately. Every little bit that you are able to save will help in an emergency. It may seem difficult to save money at first, but it will gradually get easier especially as you see your balance grow. A great way to make sure that you save at least a little money each month is to set up an automatic transfer from your checking account to your savings account or have part of your paycheck directly deposited into your savings account. Once you have enough savings to cover 3-6 months of expenses, you can feel a little more at ease knowing that you are financially prepared for an emergency.
There are advertisements everywhere online (email, Facebook, websites, etc.) for items that look and seem expensive but are “free” if you just pay shipping. But is this item really free? Most times, no. There are companies that offer quality products for “free” in hopes that by trying their product, you will become return customer. However, the shipping costs are generally inflated for these products. Even with the inflated shipping cost, you may still be getting a good deal on the product, but it wasn’t free.
The more common scenario, however, is that it is a scam. The products offered are of very poor quality or never arrive. In most cases, the company will not respond to customers’ inquiries or requests for refunds. Additionally, the company will give extended shipping estimates (6-8 weeks) making it difficult for you to contest the charge with your credit card company (you must contest the charge within 60 days of it appearing on your billing statement and “prove” that you never received the product). So how do you know if it is a legitimate company trying to get new customers or a scam? Be a smart consumer by avoiding impulse spending and by researching the company before you enter your credit card information. You can quickly access customer reviews by doing an online search or visit the Better Business Bureau’s website and search for the company. If you are unable to find any reviews or find many negative reviews, don’t be fooled into paying shipping for their “free” item. You are better off paying for the item from a reputable seller.